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Phyllis's insights have been widely published and she is a frequent contributor to the Washington Post

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Safe spaces where middle schoolers can explore their identity are powerful because they normalize students’ experiences & decrease their sense of isolation. That only happens when kids are setting the agenda & talking to one another, not listening to us. Phyllis offers several strategies for launching affinity groups in this column for The Association for Middle Level Educators (AMLE).

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In this article for the journal “Inspiring Character,” Phyllis outlines several ways we can collect and interpret parenting advice in the era of information overload.

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Phyllis was interviewed for this article in The Atlantic about helping parents, children and educators manage the mounting anxiety surrounding the start of school after several gun massacres. As she tells the writer, Alia Wong, “There’s something wrong when I’m getting an email offering a free course … learning how to pack wounds and apply a tourniquet.”

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In this Q and A blog for Psychology Today, Dr. Maureen Healy asks Phyllis for her thoughts on everything from gender identity to screen time to connecting with tweens.

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Phyllis was a guest on the Mind Matters Podcast, talking about everything from helping kids make a smooth transition to middle school transition to supporting gifted and twice-exceptional students.

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Amy Morin interviewed Phyllis for this Inc. Magazine article about fostering healthy risk-taking in tweens. A sample tip: “Help your child practice taking safe risks one small step at a time. Push too hard and they'll shut down, but don't push hard enough and they won't make progress. Aim for small exposures to help extinguish their anxiety. For instance, it might be excruciatingly hard for a child to invite that girl she admires to her house for a sleepover, but maybe she can start by saying hi in the halls, then try exchanging generic texts, or asking the girl a question about a movie.”

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The writer Deborah Farmer Kris wrote this article about “Middle School Matters” and both the magic and challenge of parenting kids through the phase. She captures the importance of diving in and focusing on raising kids who have good character and a solid sense of their parents’ values.

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Phyllis wrote this article for Working Mother Magazine about how parents can raise bully-resistant daughters who are able to navigate conflict both now—at school—and later, in the workplace. She offers strategies for helping girls take risks, go against the grain, and bounce back from failure.

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Phyllis was a guest on the Dr. Robyn podcast. In the episode, she talks about why middle school is possibly the most critical but also the most neglected developmental stage, and she shares tips for talking to tweens about the topics that really matter.

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Parents often wonder whether they should let their child — or even encourage them — to quit an activity. They might say, “Does it matter if they have a special talent, or if we’ve sunk a ton of time and money into their pursuit?“ Or they might ask, “Why would my kid suddenly want to drop something they used to enjoy?”

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Middle School Matters earned a starred review from Booklist, which calls the book ``a must-read for all parents and educators of kids in this unique and often misunderstood age group.``

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Middle school educator (former principal and long-time teacher) Katey McPherson interviewed Phyllis for her podcast, asking questions about shifting friendships, perfectionism and achievement pressure, and the role of parents during the middle school phase.

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How to help students struggling with the move from elementary to middle school

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Childhood has changed for this generation of middle schoolers. In this article for “Kappan,” Phyllis writes about what it means to be a tween today

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It can be frustrating to parent — or teach — a child or teen with “Eeyore Syndrome.” These are the kids who are relentlessly negative. They’ll say things like, “My teacher thinks I’m stupid,” or “I failed the test,” or “Everyone hates me.” Phyllis spoke to several experts to get these tips on how to turn this around.

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Middle schoolers are unfairly maligned, so Phyllis wrote this article for Ask Listen Learn to bust some myths. For starters, most tweens really dislike drama—especially from their parents. Here’s her take on some of the biggest misconceptions about kids this age—and how parents can make the most of this critical phase.

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Phyllis was a guest on the podcast Thirdspace, which covers issues of diversity, equity and inclusion. In this episode, Phyllis talks to the show’s host, Jen Cort, about identity development, affinity groups and mental health.

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In this Washington Post article, Phyllis shares several ways parents and educators can combine forces to bolster kids’ resilience and build a stronger safety net.

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Phyllis shares her thoughts on negative emotions in school. Is it wise, advisable or effective to hide the negative emotion

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Phyllis talks about how educators can help students repair damaged relationships and make behavioral changes

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Phyllis’s work was featured in this article in The New York Times. “How to Help Tweens and Teens Manage Social Conflict”

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We can’t afford to overlook kids who resort to bullying. Their behavior wreaks havoc with their moral compass, lowers their empathy and hardens them to the consequences of their actions. But the greatest reason aggressors should stop is the damage they’re doing to others. In this article for “Your Teen” magazine, Phyllis outlines several ways parents can intervene when their kid is the one doing the bullying.

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Phyllis was quoted in this article about how to recognize, prevent, and respond to cyberbullying. As she told the writer, “If the cyberbullying involved a humiliating rumor, help the targeted child come up with a dry, boring story they can repeat to the first 15 people who ask what happened.”

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Phyllis shares her thoughts on teens and ridesharing safety in this Your Teen article by Cathie Ericson.

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Phyllis talks about teen jealousy, FOMO, and teaching girls to support one another in this Facetime Live with Roy Petitfils, the host of Today's Teenager podcast.

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Phyllis’s work was featured in this article in The New York Times. “Breaking Masculine Stereotypes: Some pioneering programs are teaching boys to question gender roles, both for their own well-being and as a way to prevent sexual violence.”

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Girls who perceive that it’s a zero-sum game are less likely to support one another and more likely to view each other as threats, but this is short-sighted. When girls band together, they expand their options. Here are seven ways parents can raise empowered girls who celebrate and encourage each other throughout their lives.

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In this article for The Boston Globe Magazine, Jessica Lahey interviewed Phyllis about the importance of accepting our children for who they really are. Lahey writes about how the combined pressures of grades, sports, and college admissions can make it really hard to be patient with our kids, and she urges us to give our adolescents a little time and space to do the best they can—and to let that be enough.

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Phyllis was a guest on Breaking the Boy Code Podcast. In this episode, the host talks with her about her experiences working with boys in a K-8 school, and also interviews a 14-year-old boy who is struggling with stress and body image issues.

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I had fun doing a Facebook Live episode with the hilarious Deva Dalporto of My Life Suckers. We talked about how parents can teach kids to make good, safe and smart choices—whether it involves drinking or choosing friends.

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Redefining the End Goal - Seven ways educators can help students look beyond grades

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Exceptional Two Ways - Gifted Students with Disabilities Often Miss Out On Support

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Follow These Steps to Ease Student Anxiety in Your Classroom

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Phyllis was the guest on BBC World News (Beyond 100 Days), talking to reporters Katty Kay and Christian Fraser about the dramatic rise in self-harming behavior among children.

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Jealousy is a tough emotion that can’t be vanquished. As kids get bombarded daily with messages that they’re not enough, we need to connect them with their strengths & help them appreciate that no one’s life is perfect. Everyone has insecurities and vulnerabilities. Here are some ways to help kids react constructively, in my latest article for On Parenting (The Washington Post).

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We worry about students who don't pull their weight, but kids who dominate lose out, too. They don't develop intellectual humility, and the loudest voice in the room can impede innovation. If we want to teach kids how to value diversity of thought—a skill that leading companies look for in job applicants—then we need to approach group projects differently. I’ve shared four ideas in my “The Meaningful Middle” column for AMLE Magazine.

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MIAMI (CBSMiami) – The start of another school year is just days away, and while students are stressing over schedules and supplies, parents have their own concerns. My son is still really young, but I remember middle and high school. There’s plenty of drama to go around. So one mom, Phyllis Fagell, who also happens to be a school counselor, has some advice, and we’re breaking it down in today’s “Lauren’s List.”

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Five key lessons adults can learn from a middle school expert and author.

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I spoke to Phyllis Fagell about the four biggest misconceptions about school counselors.

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Spending as much time as we do together, our classes can bond like families, and students can start to feel like our own kids. But when it comes time for them to move on to the next grade, the next school, or the next step in their lives, it can be hard to know the best way to stay in touch with students.
Phyllis Fagell, school counselor at the Sheridan School in Washington, D.C., and therapist with the Chrysalis Group in Bethesda, Maryland, offers tips to help educators cope with the sense of loss when students move on to their next chapter.

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7 strategies to help prepare your child for the rapidly changing work world

Fox 5 News

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On The Hill: How parents can talk to their kids about school shootings

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Seven steps parents can take to ensure kids work for the right kind of popularity

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9 ways to help boys form the close friendships they crave

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Parent/Teen Purple Hibiscus Review

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News Interview: How To Connect With Teenage Boys

Character.org

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Reinforcing Values In Children

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9 ways parents can empower a child who has learning issues

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10 ways schools can improve workplace satisfaction

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Video: How To Talk To Kids About Sex

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Want to Raise Empowered Women? Start in Middle School!

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How To Talk To Kids About Sex

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3 Things School Counselors Want you to Know About Their Jobs

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10 Ways 'Design Thinking' Can Help You Raise Resourceful Kids

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When Every Educator in a Middle School Shadows a Student for a Day

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The Myth of the Straight A Student and 6 Ways to Debunk It

U.S Department Of Education

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Developing Strong and Confident Women

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7 Ways to Foster Kids’ Confidence and Creativity with Maker Learning

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Beyond Sex Ed: How to Talk to Teens about Love

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Want to Raise Empowered Women? Start in Middle School

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5 Ways to Help Your Child Survive the Social Turmoil of Middle School

Character.org

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What's Happening in Character Education?

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Six Ways Parents and Schools Can Teach Teens about Love

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How to Encourage Job Skills for Kids

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Middle Schoolers Dealing with the Scary Things

Podcast: With Annie Fox

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Interview with Annie Fox of Family Confidential - Myth of the Straight A

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Tips to Help Kids Stay Engaged in Learning Even When the Going Gets Rough

Psychreg

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How Twitter Can Help Therapists Avoid the Danger of a Single Story

stopmedicineabuse.org

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Four ways parents can help perfectionist teens get out of their own way

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6 Ways Parents Can Help Kids Survive Gossip

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Beyond Power Tools: How Maker Learning Can Improve Social Dynamics

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Why Midlife Might Be the Perfect Time to Meld Skills and Test-drive New Passions

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When Two Seventh Graders Lead A Staff Meeting About Social Drama

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10 Ways to Foster Kindness and Empathy in Kids

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Career Confidential Column: When School Is Your Workplace

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Not Just High Schoolers Anymore, My Middle School Students are Feeling the Pressure to Succeed

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10 Ways to Help Kids Take Risks in a World of Nos and Don’ts

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10 Ways Design Thinking Can Help You Raise Resourceful Kids

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Eight Ways Parents Can Teach Teens To Be Honest

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10 Skills Middle School Students Need to Thrive and How Parents Can Help

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What Children Can Teach Us About Change, Growing Up

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Six Ways Parents Can Stay Connected With Their Teen Sons

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9 Ways Parents can Help Bullied Kids Learn Resilience

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10 Ways To Take The Struggle Out Of Homework

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After yet another school shooting, educators have more questions than answers

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Ten Mindfulness Strategies for Educators

Podcast: Parenting Bytes

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Myth of the Straight A: Parenting Bytes: Raising Kids in the Digital Age

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