Lisa Damour, Ph.D. includes Phyllis’s thoughts in this The New York Times article on tween and teen social conflict. “Social discord rarely involves bullying,” explains Fagell, a counselor at the Sheridan School and the author of the forthcoming book “Middle School Matters.” Most commonly, conflict stems from anything ranging from a misunderstood comment, to a spilled secret, to a lopsided friendship. Contrary to conventional wisdom, kids aren’t always looking to restore friendships. They may need permission to move on or need help creating a more comfortable, if distant, interpersonal dynamic.”
Read the New York Times article here.